How to Overcome a Crisis in Self-Confidence
Self-confidence can be shaken by stressful events in everyday life: losing a job, rejection, breaking up with a partner, or even for no apparent reason.
By learning how to improve self-esteem, it can be easier to cope with a knock of self-confidence, and the negative experiences in life.
If you find yourself suffering from a sudden crisis of self-confidence, spend a few minutes listing some accomplishments or achievements in your life, whether small or large.
Think about how important that achievement was to you, what it meant for you to achieve it, and how it made you feel. Try to remember how far you have come in your life, and all you have overcome and achieved.
Try not to compare yourself to others. Just because someone else has more than you, or seems to have less stress and fewer problems than you, it doesn’t mean that person doesn’t have his or her fair share of stress. Everybody is different.
You may never make as much money or be as slim or as popular as someone else, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy of confidence and high self-esteem.
Learn to accept yourself for who and what you are. Learn the difference between what you can change and what you can’t, and accept those things you can’t change.
Write a list of all the things you like about yourself, and use this to give yourself a self-confidence boost when you need it.
Set yourself a small and easily achievable goal, then give yourself a reasonable time limit in which to complete it. Start working to achieve the goal immediately. Instead of focusing on huge goals, the things that seem nearly impossible, use small goals as stepping stones to reach the final goal.
For example, if you want to lose weight, set a goal of seven pounds and achieve that, rather than 40 pounds, which may seem impossible. By achieving small goals, you may find your self-confidence increasing.
Instead of focusing on your problems, focus on the solutions. How can you change events in your life? Try to come up with things you can do to make life better.
Create a list of what might make you feel better about yourself, and try to find positives in every negative situation. For example, if you lose your job, see it as an opportunity to get a better one.